‘Travelers, it is late. Life's sun is going to set.?During these brief days that you have strength,?be quick and spare no effort of your wings!’ ~ Rumi
Dear Friends,
This week was all about insights and actions.
I was speaking with someone who was super proud of a number of insights she's had over the years, and yet hasn't been able to make much out of them. Despite those very powerful insights, life was still happening TO her, as opposed to happening FOR her.
She was curious to find out HOW she could turn those insights into action, and more importantly for her, WHY she choose to hang onto the insights for an extended period of time.
I believe that we all have, at one point in our lives, wallowed in the knowledge that we got the insight and thought that was enough:-)! Insights can be very powerful if used correctly, yet, if left unused, they may lose significance over time.
Once you get an insight, it can evolve in two ways:
- Either you realise that you are meant to raise your game and stop 'playing small' or
- You stick to the 'playing small' role, because you fear that the new role will require you to own up, step up and raise your game, leaving your old habits behind.
Ultimately, it is up to us which way we choose…
Every insight requires appropriate action.
With this in mind, I send you oceans of love and wish you a myriad of actionable insights.
© Copyright Momentum Strategies 2012
Lidija Markovic Rosati
Saturday, February 25, 2012
Saturday, February 18, 2012
Listening vs. Hearing
‘Man's inability to communicate is a result of his failure to listen effectively.’ ~ Carl Rogers
Dear Friends,
A chain email caused a great deal of distress to a dear friend of mine this week, which made think a lot about the difference between listening and hearing.
We all listen, but do we actually hear?! Do we allow a space for the words we are listening to filter through and become a part of a hearing process?
Listening is very much one way process, and in many cases it is catapulted from the 'spinal cord' responses;-)! It is nothing, unless it is paired with Hearing. It is one sided communication that nonone benefits from, and yet it can cause a great deal of damage, as was the case with my friend.
Hearing on the other hand can be a very creative, interactive process and includes not only auditory perception, but also an exciting mix of cognitive and affective processes. Hearing helps both those who send messages and those that receive (hear) them to better understand themselves.
Hearing dissolves over-subjectivity and contributes to a flexibility in communication.
Easily said than done, I hear you say! How do we transition from listening to hearing, or better yet, how do we incorporate listening into hearing? Frankly, I haven't got a one-size-fits-all response. However, I can share a tried and tested method that works with me.
During any conversation, start by asking yourself: 'Am I just listening or am I hearing?' If you feel light, you'll know you are onto a good thing!
Sending you oceans of love and wishing you a light weekend!
Lidija
© Momentum Strategies 2012
Dear Friends,
A chain email caused a great deal of distress to a dear friend of mine this week, which made think a lot about the difference between listening and hearing.
We all listen, but do we actually hear?! Do we allow a space for the words we are listening to filter through and become a part of a hearing process?
Listening is very much one way process, and in many cases it is catapulted from the 'spinal cord' responses;-)! It is nothing, unless it is paired with Hearing. It is one sided communication that nonone benefits from, and yet it can cause a great deal of damage, as was the case with my friend.
Hearing on the other hand can be a very creative, interactive process and includes not only auditory perception, but also an exciting mix of cognitive and affective processes. Hearing helps both those who send messages and those that receive (hear) them to better understand themselves.
Hearing dissolves over-subjectivity and contributes to a flexibility in communication.
Easily said than done, I hear you say! How do we transition from listening to hearing, or better yet, how do we incorporate listening into hearing? Frankly, I haven't got a one-size-fits-all response. However, I can share a tried and tested method that works with me.
During any conversation, start by asking yourself: 'Am I just listening or am I hearing?' If you feel light, you'll know you are onto a good thing!
Sending you oceans of love and wishing you a light weekend!
Lidija
© Momentum Strategies 2012
Sunday, February 12, 2012
Depth vs. Surface
There are many situations in life where people are acting 'by default', and in many cases that 'by default' behaviour can be beneficial to all those involved in 'by default' interactions.
For instance, we've all been in situations where we said what we thought the other person wanted to hear. There is nothing wrong with it, I hear you say! However, I can't help but ask myself whether that kind of behaviour impacts our growth, our development, and whether those petty benefits we get from saying what is expected from us, distance us from something more important and deeper within ourselves?!
I believe that the answer to this question depends on what we value most in our lives.
If depth, growth, expansion is something we aim for, we are of course, going to stay clear from the above mentioned petty benefits. For, if we nurture 'by default' behaviour we will inevitably create 'by default' relationships and 'by default' character, and will be growing apart from our core, our essence, away from what we really are and what we really stand for.
'By default' behaviour dances on the surface and uses well rehearsed and easy steps! It is afraid of digging deep, and looking for a more challenging choreography, that will take it to the depths of Being, of Self!
With this in mind, I am looking forward to a weekend, and beyond, of everything, but 'by default' behaviour!
Sending you oceans of love!
Lidija
For instance, we've all been in situations where we said what we thought the other person wanted to hear. There is nothing wrong with it, I hear you say! However, I can't help but ask myself whether that kind of behaviour impacts our growth, our development, and whether those petty benefits we get from saying what is expected from us, distance us from something more important and deeper within ourselves?!
I believe that the answer to this question depends on what we value most in our lives.
If depth, growth, expansion is something we aim for, we are of course, going to stay clear from the above mentioned petty benefits. For, if we nurture 'by default' behaviour we will inevitably create 'by default' relationships and 'by default' character, and will be growing apart from our core, our essence, away from what we really are and what we really stand for.
'By default' behaviour dances on the surface and uses well rehearsed and easy steps! It is afraid of digging deep, and looking for a more challenging choreography, that will take it to the depths of Being, of Self!
With this in mind, I am looking forward to a weekend, and beyond, of everything, but 'by default' behaviour!
Sending you oceans of love!
Lidija
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