‘If you always do what you’ve always done, you will always get what you always got!’ ~ Unknown
Dear Friends,
It has been an interesting week. A week in which new friendships were born, new ideas emerged, seeds for new habits sown…
Habits…Good old habits…or not so good!?
Anyway, as I was preparing for a two-week absence and a full immersion into the world of New Code NLP, I was reminded about some habits of mine that in the past were useful and have made a great difference to my life!
The time has come though to replace them with some new ones, or simply upgrade them. As, like with everything else in life, we change, our psychology shifts, and our habits or daily rituals need to change as well.
Most times, we keep them out of ‘habit’;-), even when we know that they no longer serve us in their current role. We have, if you like, trapped them and imprisoned them in the role that has been assigned to them, back in the days when they were needed.
Sometimes, the biggest limitation to our growth and expansion can be those very habits that have outgrown their purpose, and the sooner we change, tweak or upgrade them, the better.
Are there any habits you are holding a prisoner, and are they the ‘convenient’ reason why you are moving at a slower than expected pace?!
Sending you oceans of love,
Lidija
© Copyright Momentum Strategies 2012
Lidija Markovic Rosati
Friday, March 2, 2012
Saturday, February 25, 2012
Weekly Food for Thought - Of Insights and Actions
‘Travelers, it is late. Life's sun is going to set.?During these brief days that you have strength,?be quick and spare no effort of your wings!’ ~ Rumi
Dear Friends,
This week was all about insights and actions.
I was speaking with someone who was super proud of a number of insights she's had over the years, and yet hasn't been able to make much out of them. Despite those very powerful insights, life was still happening TO her, as opposed to happening FOR her.
She was curious to find out HOW she could turn those insights into action, and more importantly for her, WHY she choose to hang onto the insights for an extended period of time.
I believe that we all have, at one point in our lives, wallowed in the knowledge that we got the insight and thought that was enough:-)! Insights can be very powerful if used correctly, yet, if left unused, they may lose significance over time.
Once you get an insight, it can evolve in two ways:
- Either you realise that you are meant to raise your game and stop 'playing small' or
- You stick to the 'playing small' role, because you fear that the new role will require you to own up, step up and raise your game, leaving your old habits behind.
Ultimately, it is up to us which way we choose…
Every insight requires appropriate action.
With this in mind, I send you oceans of love and wish you a myriad of actionable insights.
© Copyright Momentum Strategies 2012
Dear Friends,
This week was all about insights and actions.
I was speaking with someone who was super proud of a number of insights she's had over the years, and yet hasn't been able to make much out of them. Despite those very powerful insights, life was still happening TO her, as opposed to happening FOR her.
She was curious to find out HOW she could turn those insights into action, and more importantly for her, WHY she choose to hang onto the insights for an extended period of time.
I believe that we all have, at one point in our lives, wallowed in the knowledge that we got the insight and thought that was enough:-)! Insights can be very powerful if used correctly, yet, if left unused, they may lose significance over time.
Once you get an insight, it can evolve in two ways:
- Either you realise that you are meant to raise your game and stop 'playing small' or
- You stick to the 'playing small' role, because you fear that the new role will require you to own up, step up and raise your game, leaving your old habits behind.
Ultimately, it is up to us which way we choose…
Every insight requires appropriate action.
With this in mind, I send you oceans of love and wish you a myriad of actionable insights.
© Copyright Momentum Strategies 2012
Saturday, February 18, 2012
Listening vs. Hearing
‘Man's inability to communicate is a result of his failure to listen effectively.’ ~ Carl Rogers
Dear Friends,
A chain email caused a great deal of distress to a dear friend of mine this week, which made think a lot about the difference between listening and hearing.
We all listen, but do we actually hear?! Do we allow a space for the words we are listening to filter through and become a part of a hearing process?
Listening is very much one way process, and in many cases it is catapulted from the 'spinal cord' responses;-)! It is nothing, unless it is paired with Hearing. It is one sided communication that nonone benefits from, and yet it can cause a great deal of damage, as was the case with my friend.
Hearing on the other hand can be a very creative, interactive process and includes not only auditory perception, but also an exciting mix of cognitive and affective processes. Hearing helps both those who send messages and those that receive (hear) them to better understand themselves.
Hearing dissolves over-subjectivity and contributes to a flexibility in communication.
Easily said than done, I hear you say! How do we transition from listening to hearing, or better yet, how do we incorporate listening into hearing? Frankly, I haven't got a one-size-fits-all response. However, I can share a tried and tested method that works with me.
During any conversation, start by asking yourself: 'Am I just listening or am I hearing?' If you feel light, you'll know you are onto a good thing!
Sending you oceans of love and wishing you a light weekend!
Lidija
© Momentum Strategies 2012
Dear Friends,
A chain email caused a great deal of distress to a dear friend of mine this week, which made think a lot about the difference between listening and hearing.
We all listen, but do we actually hear?! Do we allow a space for the words we are listening to filter through and become a part of a hearing process?
Listening is very much one way process, and in many cases it is catapulted from the 'spinal cord' responses;-)! It is nothing, unless it is paired with Hearing. It is one sided communication that nonone benefits from, and yet it can cause a great deal of damage, as was the case with my friend.
Hearing on the other hand can be a very creative, interactive process and includes not only auditory perception, but also an exciting mix of cognitive and affective processes. Hearing helps both those who send messages and those that receive (hear) them to better understand themselves.
Hearing dissolves over-subjectivity and contributes to a flexibility in communication.
Easily said than done, I hear you say! How do we transition from listening to hearing, or better yet, how do we incorporate listening into hearing? Frankly, I haven't got a one-size-fits-all response. However, I can share a tried and tested method that works with me.
During any conversation, start by asking yourself: 'Am I just listening or am I hearing?' If you feel light, you'll know you are onto a good thing!
Sending you oceans of love and wishing you a light weekend!
Lidija
© Momentum Strategies 2012
Sunday, February 12, 2012
Depth vs. Surface
There are many situations in life where people are acting 'by default', and in many cases that 'by default' behaviour can be beneficial to all those involved in 'by default' interactions.
For instance, we've all been in situations where we said what we thought the other person wanted to hear. There is nothing wrong with it, I hear you say! However, I can't help but ask myself whether that kind of behaviour impacts our growth, our development, and whether those petty benefits we get from saying what is expected from us, distance us from something more important and deeper within ourselves?!
I believe that the answer to this question depends on what we value most in our lives.
If depth, growth, expansion is something we aim for, we are of course, going to stay clear from the above mentioned petty benefits. For, if we nurture 'by default' behaviour we will inevitably create 'by default' relationships and 'by default' character, and will be growing apart from our core, our essence, away from what we really are and what we really stand for.
'By default' behaviour dances on the surface and uses well rehearsed and easy steps! It is afraid of digging deep, and looking for a more challenging choreography, that will take it to the depths of Being, of Self!
With this in mind, I am looking forward to a weekend, and beyond, of everything, but 'by default' behaviour!
Sending you oceans of love!
Lidija
For instance, we've all been in situations where we said what we thought the other person wanted to hear. There is nothing wrong with it, I hear you say! However, I can't help but ask myself whether that kind of behaviour impacts our growth, our development, and whether those petty benefits we get from saying what is expected from us, distance us from something more important and deeper within ourselves?!
I believe that the answer to this question depends on what we value most in our lives.
If depth, growth, expansion is something we aim for, we are of course, going to stay clear from the above mentioned petty benefits. For, if we nurture 'by default' behaviour we will inevitably create 'by default' relationships and 'by default' character, and will be growing apart from our core, our essence, away from what we really are and what we really stand for.
'By default' behaviour dances on the surface and uses well rehearsed and easy steps! It is afraid of digging deep, and looking for a more challenging choreography, that will take it to the depths of Being, of Self!
With this in mind, I am looking forward to a weekend, and beyond, of everything, but 'by default' behaviour!
Sending you oceans of love!
Lidija
Saturday, January 28, 2012
MUST vs. must
Dear Friends,
This week was important for me on many levels. However, if I were to single out one thing, it would have to be a consultation I had with my trusted Dr. Isaac Jones of the Designers Health Centers fame. It was the shortest, and yet the most powerful consultation.
Mind you, all consultations have, so far (I am half way through a Detox plan) brought brilliant results, yet, like with anything else in life, if you want something better than outstanding, you gotta raise the bar!
And so I did!
This week I committed and stuck to a diet of eating highly alkaline raw food! I've contemplated it in the past, and yet, never got round to doing it.
This time it was different!
I decided why it was a MUST for me (note the capital lettersJ), and with the support from my Unconscious, coupled with Dr. Jones's in-depth research, I started this energizing, cleansing journey!
I'd like to point out the importance of the verb ‘must’ here! The difference is in the capital M! At some point in the past, we've all gone through and made decisions using the small 'm',with never ending preparations for the D-day!
The basic characteristic of the small 'm' is the fear of change and the belief that, if we ever get to reach the heights of the capital 'M', our lives will drastically change.
At the core of this fear of change lies the rigid mind and rigid ways of thinking and being. Achieving the capital 'M' doesn't mean we will change beyond recognition; it only means that we will make a significant step forward in our internal growth!
Once you reach the heights of capital 'M', you will open more space for some other, new, exciting MUSTs.
I'd like to think that this week, with one capital 'M' I created a space for other new and exciting MUSTs
Wishing you a Magnificent weekend and sending you oceans of love,
Lidija
© Momentum Strategies 2012
Friday, January 20, 2012
Of Health and Words
'Every human being is the author of his own health or disease.'~Buddha
Dear Friends,
Dear Friends,
This week has been all about getting used to different ways of doing, being… As it happens, I caught a nasty cold, followed by high temperature and snifflesL!
It was hard for me not being able to go about my usual ways. Running and tennis were out of the question, yoga was performed in its lighter version - that of breathing and meditation.
And suddenly, amid the sniffles and copious cups of tea, I realized I was enjoying this calm, light way of being, different from my usual high-speed multitasking way! It was my body’s way of telling me to slow down, to take it easy…Stuff I know, and yet, easily forget…
I am grateful for this reminder, albeit harsh, to be kind to my body, and to listen to it, be aware of the signals my unconscious is sending to me and acknowledge them and use them.
We all know that a good healthy communication is vital, and this week, I was reminded that a healthy body requires a healthy inner communication.
And so, this week I started a new ritual – that of asking my body what it wants, instead of overloading it with a heavy, back to back schedule. I ask and I listen…Few times a day! What I got back is phenomenal!
Here’s to a healthy weekend!
Sending you oceans of love,
Lidija
© Copyright Momentum Strategies 2012
Sunday, January 8, 2012
DOs, DON'Ts and DISCIPLINE
And so with the festive season over, and an even more beautiful season looming ahead of us, I find myself in the company of dear friends discussing the difference between those people who have it, and those who don’t! Faith, believing in yourself, listening to your gut feeling, seem to be the order of the day!
Everything appears to be down to attitude, down to the internal dialogue, mental chatter. And the question inevitably arises, as to how to make them work for you? How do you engage them to help you reach your goal, live your dream, have fulfilling relationships…
Because, let’s face it, the mind never sleeps, however if we teach it how to, even for a few minutes during the day, calm down and ask it to work with us, we CAN have everything we set our mind to.
Even when we know WHY that goal is a MUST for us, and even when HOW has taken care of itself;-), there’s still one vital ingredient missing: DISCIPLINE - the habit of regular practice!
And until WHY and HOW haven’t been introduced to DISCIPLINE, our goals will remain distant, our resolutions will have a short shelf life, and the mental chatter will become louder once again!
With this in mind, my friends and I decided to make DISCIPLINE our chief ally for 2012.
Sending you oceans of love,
Lidija
Copyright ©Momentum Strategies 2012
Everything appears to be down to attitude, down to the internal dialogue, mental chatter. And the question inevitably arises, as to how to make them work for you? How do you engage them to help you reach your goal, live your dream, have fulfilling relationships…
Because, let’s face it, the mind never sleeps, however if we teach it how to, even for a few minutes during the day, calm down and ask it to work with us, we CAN have everything we set our mind to.
Even when we know WHY that goal is a MUST for us, and even when HOW has taken care of itself;-), there’s still one vital ingredient missing: DISCIPLINE - the habit of regular practice!
And until WHY and HOW haven’t been introduced to DISCIPLINE, our goals will remain distant, our resolutions will have a short shelf life, and the mental chatter will become louder once again!
With this in mind, my friends and I decided to make DISCIPLINE our chief ally for 2012.
Sending you oceans of love,
Lidija
Copyright ©Momentum Strategies 2012
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