“My
self confidence comes from the fact that I have discovered my dimensions. It
does not befit me to make myself smaller than I am.” ~ Edit Södergran
Dear Friends,
There is a potential you. A you that is
greater than you are at the present point in time. And that potential you is
also a more authentic you. Your real you. However, oftentimes we are not fully
open to that potential self.
At a recent workshop we delivered, there
was, as always a mixed group of people – NLP trainers, coaches,
psychotherapists, psychologists, business owners, engineers, students… A very
diverse and a very interesting group. Albeit
diverse, they had one thing in common – a passion to take their lives to a
higher level, to dig deep and uncover what is the difference that makes the
difference.
What
happened with the zest?
What happens when you are open to new
learnings, discoveries, insights, and how come that zest doesn’t last… It comes
in waves, and it goes away, and in between some people close themselves, shut
themselves from the world if you like, and go back to the old established well
known and familiar patterns…
This was the most pressing question, and
the one that no matter where we work and who we work with, this kind of
question or a variation of it, pretty much always comes up! In other words,
what is it that we do, on our road to self-development and self-discovery that contributes
to us shutting ourselves off, close ourselves from ourselves?! And when we do
close ourselves from ourselves, who and what do we open ourselves to?
Getting
the answer is not enough
This ain’t an easy one to answer, however
it is not the answers we are looking for, it is the action that we are
interested inJ! Answers sometimes serve the purpose of sidetracking us, lulling us
into believing that ‘now we have the answer we are half way there’ kind of
thing. Having an answer works for some things, yet when it comes to personal
growth, we wind that answers play a very little role, as most people like to
cling onto them, without really taking any action. Answers are a sure road to
taking us to the world of words and rationalizations.
So why do we stop in our tracks and why do
we close ourselves to ourselves when the shadow of a breakthrough appears?! A
fear of the unknown?! A fear of not being prepared for that, which awaits us on
the other side?! A fear of responsibility?!
A
shadow of a breakthrough is not a breakthrough
Remember that a shadow of a breakthrough is
not a breakthrough. Just like the map is not the territory. We all talk about
great breakthroughs and wanting them. But do we really want them? Let’s face
it, very few of us, are prepared to face them, and use the momentum that they
bring.
Very often this has to do with self-sabotage,
which is unconsciously nurtured, by many. And fed daily! And when you do this,
you will inevitably be nurturing and feeding the nagging inner voice. The voice
of: today is not the right day, wait until tomorrow. And then you will find it
that the voice of self -sabotage needs company, and that’s where the guilt
kicks in, and suddenly the veil of illusion slides down and you realize that
time is of the essence and that if you continue with the same old shutting
yourself from yourself, leaving the party just when it starts to get
interesting and fun, you will find yourself with a handful of excuses and a
myriad of “I could have …” “I should have …” sentences.
Making
a decision will help
So instead of running away from the shadow
of a breakthrough, make a decision to stick to your guns no matter what. Work
with that breakthrough, welcome it! As shutting yourself from yourself is not
befitting of you. You are bigger than that. Find that greatness that you have,
and start operating from it more and more.
Because you cannot postpone starting to
live your real life. Or actually the truth is worse. You can postpone your real
life. Forever. And then the life you live will become your real life. So, if
not now, then when?
With this in mind may we invite you to
consider all the breakthroughs that could have happened in your life had you
just had the guts to let go of the familiar old patterns, and see how you could
learn from these insights, so next time you are on the verge of a breakthrough
you open your arms and welcome it, rather than running away from it.
Wishing you a wonderful week and sending
you oceans of love,
Your real life trainers,
Lidija & Thomas
© Momentum Strategies
2013
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